Can my husband know me better than I know myself? Does he know how I feel with no words? Are we truly in sync so much so that he just knows my feelings? I can honestly say yes to all of these questions.
One particular day I woke up just in a funk. I honestly could not tell you why because I myself didn’t know. I just was not feeling this day and if it were totally left up to me I would just go back to bed. My husband and I went along with our regular morning routine. You know getting the kids up and off to school.
When we got back home my husband ask me, “Are you ok? You seem a little off today.” I told him I was fine because I was, but I was just in this funk and didn’t know why. Noting happened the night before it was just one of those explainable mood swings I guess. And no I am not menopausing either so don’t think about it! We continued on with our day. I got dress as he did and out of nowhere is asked me “Do you want to go to Sephora?” Now my husband truly knows me and he knows that I love anything makeup. The moment he said this it truly brightened my day. I was grinning from ear to ear. Not because I was going to go to one of my FAVORITE places but because he really knew me.
The fact that my husband knew that I woke up on the wrong side of the bed and was in a serious funk let me know my husband really knows me. He could have easily said I am not dealing with her she has an attitude. Let me just stay away from her because I don’t want any problems with her today. But instead he wanted to make it right. Does your spouse really know you?
My husband and I have went to a club and it just was not my set. I tried to make the best of it but he knew it wasn’t my crowd. We stayed and mingled but he knew I was not happy there. I never said anything and every time he asked I told him I was fine and I was enjoying myself. Next thing I knew we were saying our goodbyes and we left. Once in the car he said “You were not enjoying yourself I could tell.” He was right I wasn’t but no words were ever said and he knew.
Again, this is yet another example of him knowing me and that’s half the battle. I mean think about because he pays so much attention he already knows what will light me like a firecracker so he rarely lights it. No means am I saying we are perfect or that our relationship is but one thing is for sure we pay attention.
Being in a marriage you have to be in tuned with your spouse. You should know how they are feeling without words being said, you become one. When one is feeling a certain way the other should pick up on it immediately. Everyone has a different way of communicating and this was something that every couple has to learn.
During our engagement, I had a cousin that recommended a book call The Five Love Languages. If you have never read this book I highly recommend it. The book breaks down all the different ways people communicate their love and it will help you to identify which language you speak vs which language your spouse speaks. Because you both may speak different languages, and this does not mean literally, you need to understand how their language works. This book is a true game changer. Any one in a relationship would benefit from this book. It would help you understand what you may not have before. You and your spouse will have a healthy long relationship if the nonverbal and verbal communication is clear and understood. Everything does not have to be said but it should be understood. How well does your spouse know you?
Here is a great blog post that goes more into The 5 Love Languages here if you want to read a little more about this.
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